I honestly have never had any desire to blog, or to care to read someone's blog. But I have gotten to the point where I feel words, and peoples view points are insightful. Anywhere from life experience, following Christ, and intimacy I think are inspiring. What better way to be inspired than to read blogs, they're practically biographies. I'd like to make a "diary" of my life and journey as becoming Mrs. Rachel Leah Cannon, and after. Well, Here goes nothing.Today, I was wedding planning, If you would even call it that. I'm going to be very honest, I feel alone in this process, and lack of support. I talked to my sister on the phone yesteday, she just went on about how she's going to have to pay $800 to make it to my wedding, same with the rest of the family. I feel really bad. With all of this complication I honestly would not like to have a wedding! I wish I had family or friends who would just get ready this beautiful woodsy location and just celebrate with us all for a small amount of money. I don't want to spend more than 3,000 total, but guess what the venue of my dreams I want is 3,000 alone. How? How does anyone in their right mind justify that? Drew, my fiance is wanting a wedding and not to elope, which I understand completely, we want to celebrate it with loved ones. But we can't find a place, so why are we evening doing this? It's literally just overwhelming me inside. I've been realizing that all of this stress and tension from planning to family is just building up inside. I feel like breaking down. Is this God telling me not to do it? But I feel like no matter what time its planned for I still don't want to plan it. It's been 2 months since my best friend proposed, and the only thing we have gotten done is engagment photos, and picked a date. Anyone have answers? Anyone know in Northern Arizona where I can have a grand old rustic, patio, nature, tree hugging wedding?
Photograph of my first choice; Foxboro Lodge. $3,500, 500 refundale.
Photograph of my second choice; SnowBowl- But the Ceremony wouldn't be what I want.
Ugh, I just wrote out a big ole comment on my phone, and it didn't post... so here goes again...
ReplyDeleteAfter helping and seeing a bunch of people plan their wedding, I feel the same way you do. I've realized that weddings "were" about celebrating the love that the couple shares, and now it's turned into Illinoisans spending an average of $25,000 on the wedding. That's the AVERAGE!
You're going to feel alone in the process sometimes, but you can't question having a wedding at all. There are a lot of options you can look into before veto-ing the whole idea.
You two will just have to decide what is most important for you both on your special day. Do you want an awesome DJ? Perfect Photos? Or a grand venue? There are going to have to be sacrifices since the budget you two have set is really low.
I know Park Districts rent out different parks for pretty cheap. Also, after helping Zander's sister with her wedding, you have to be careful with the bigger venues, the price you see online or in a brochure isn't the final price. They can charge you for whatever the heck they want once they have you under a contract. Also with bigger venues, some have a "preferred" list of caterers, DJs, photographers, etc. that you CAN use, and other have a list that you HAVE to choose from.
You guys just need to take some time and find out what you really really want. There are a lot of "do it yourself" ideas that you can do to cut the cost down. You can buy flowers from whole foods the weekend of, and make the bouquets with your bridesmaids, make all the decorations yourself. (Pinterest is notorious for ideas!).
I think the key to planning a great wedding, and being able to afford a great wedding, is simply having enough time. The longer you have to plan, the more you can save. You just have to figure out what's most important. (:
Blessings on your planning!!! You'll get there, you just have to be patient, logical, and realistic.
Thank you Kaylea, this really helps, and I can't believe people do that with contracts!! I do like your question, and I do need to figure out what is more important, very eye opening! I feel planning is super important, I just feel crunched with time because the date is the 30th of June. If you know or come across anything super cost worthy- please let me know!
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ReplyDeleteSorry to hear about all of the stresses going on! I've had the same issues too...literally making so many phone calls to different venues to find out who is cheapest! Just pray and give it all to God, Sean & I did that and God has provided so many people to come alongside us and help out! Even if it is just an idea, or if they offer to help decorate or offer a free service! Commit the wedding to Him and He will provide! Also, with venues, look at just getting appetizers! It keeps the cost down a whole lot! Good luck hun! Praying for ya!
Thank you Nilsa, I know if I put him in the center it'll all come together. I'm just bitter, its one of those.. "control issues" and I want to be the one who makes the decision. haha. Our date is June 30th, so I feel stressed with time. By the way, if you're interested I know some places in Illinois because my sister Claira is planning if you're looking for a more outdoor venue she has some places. When is your date/budget?
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